There are those who stand by you and those who dont want to lose their comfortable situation (place, food and game to enjoy for free) and probably are to cowardly to pick a side. For what I understand- they didnt do either.Īs for the rest of your group- they're not divided into your/hers side I guess. Its your place and if anybody has any sort of problem with accomodation/food/whatever he/she can either talk with you about it or propose alternative. And I wouldnt be surprise if she is plainly jealous of not being in the center of attention And this is how she tries to change it. Unfortunately - I have seen it few times. He will probably disappear from your hobby at some point becouse its not something that suits her. and her boyfriend is standing behing her. I just had shitty timing and emergency leave paperwork and about 15 other things to think about and calling my dnd group was not even a thought. I can understand killing off a ghosting player though. I honestly think the dm/exBF killed my character off because I broke up with him before I left because he was controlling, didn’t listen to me when I asserted myself, decided that an “I’m fine, but I have to go to her funeral” meant that I wasn’t bothered by all the stress a funeral entails, ditched me both weekends before I left despite me telling him I was leaving for a funeral on the other side of the country, and I very publicly gave him a dressing down before the actual words of “it’s not working”. My character was killed off offscreen and when I came back I was like “Are you fucking serious? I just got back from my grandmother’s funeral.” Though my character’s son did attempt a burial when she died, so that was nice. Though I do admit was that absent/ghosting player for 3 weeks, but my excuse was that I was going to The opposite side of the country for a funeral and had 0 brain for dnd at the time. I will talk to my group this Sunday and post an update. I am not that familiar with their relationship.ĮDIT2: I was totally blown away by how many people responded and I am sorry, that I can't reply to everyone. So AITA for pretty much making it impossible for our group to continue the game because I don't want the girlfriend in my flat anymore?ĮDIT: I am hosting because of my husband's disability and don't want to leave him alone if it can be avoided.īecause a lot have asked why she wants to tag along, I suspect that she has control issues. The group now is torn into two camps, those who agree with me and those who 'want to skip the drama' and just want to continue playing, with or without her.
That pissed her off and her boyfriend as well, who even said, that I 'should send my husband away too, if we didn't allow spouses to come along anymore', to which I called him an entitled prick and plainly stated, that I would no longer host the sessions anymore, as long as he wanted to bring her along. I was angry and when the players asked when the next session would be, I told them the date and also that the girlfriend was 'invited not to come, since she felt so uncomfortable in my dirthole of a place' (by now everyone else had also seen what she wrote). While I can't say for sure why she called him a creep, it is either because there is an age gap between me and him of seven years or because he has a disfigured face due to an accident. My husband came home in the evening and startled her when he entered the living room. She apparently found it creepy that a 'grown man' had dozens of paper flowers lying around (mind you, I put them all on my work desk, to make the place more comfortable for visitors). I make paper flowers for weddings and funerals as a side job, so my flat sometimes is a bit untidy, but never unclean or dirty. (She probably did not realize that I was in the channel because I use a different name on Discord). Two days ago I logged into Discord and went to our group's video game channel, just to discover that the girlfriend was talking shit behind my back, calling my place a 'dirthole' and me a 'psycho', as well as my husband a 'creep'. What really annoyed me came after the session, however. She also had a very rude attitude in general and complained about the choice of snacks and drinks. Which in itself was not a big problem, so we all agreed that she could watch (she did not want to play herself, as she was, in her own words, too inexperienced).ĭuring the session she came across as very bored and constantly made loud sighing noises to, I guess, express her boredom, which was disruptive and, tbh, childish imo.
Everything was fine, until one of the players wanted to bring his (M33) girlfriend (F30) along. For the last three months I (M34) have been hosting our DnD games in my flat.